Category: Dating and Relationships
Guys,
I'd like to hear from anyone who has either been asked out or who has asked someone out in college/university. I can't wait to start dating, but I feel incredibly self-conscious and have nooo idea how I would, first of all, ask someone out, and second of all, survive if the person rejected me, haha.
So, advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I was in a similar situation to you this time last year. It was my first year of college and I didn't have much confidence when it comes to dating. I think the best advice I could give personally is not to even think about the dating part at first and just concentrate on making friends. It's always easier to let someone know how you feel if you know them a little better and hopefully everything else will just fall into place after that.
When it comes to rejection, yes it's hard but you learn how to deal with it overtime. A group of good friends and some things you enjoy to take your mind off the rejection is always a good idea. If you do get rejected once don't let it turn you off dating, just get back up and always remember to say how you feel. What's the worst that can happen?
Why do you want to worry about dating in college?
Most people simply make friends, hang around each other and eventually run into someone or a couple of people they like and then hook up with.
In other words, don’t worry. Like the post above says, just make friends with people, put yourself out there, make yourself available for a good time, parties, bars, hanging out, whatever, and the rest should fall into place.
However, if you still do feel like you want to take the old fashioned approach and ask someone out, get to know them a bit, most people in college want more of a friends they can hook up with, as opposed to the high school sweetheart sort of thing; even if they are serious. In other words, everyone likes their space, and everyone wants to be able to do their own thing, even if they want to date you, and only you. That’s one of the reasons they are in college right? So, if you are going to ask them out, keep this in mind when you approach the person. Keep things simple and fun. “Hey, do you want to do such and such later on?” Do not make it seem like saying no to you will brake your heart or make things odd, or any of that. Keep it light, simple and fun.
Drink lots of alcohol, black out, while blacked out ask every girl at the party if she'll play with your winky, and if you don't wake up alone you know you scored.